Friday, September 26, 2008

Problem of the day

Today we were at our local home school co-op. The kids are divided up into 3 groups and rotate through 3 stations. In the process of dividing the groups one of my sons was split up away from his buddy. Not his only buddy just the one he wanted to be around today. About halfway through our first station he comes walking into the other room and says the leader told him to switch and now join this group (the one with the buddy). I find out later that he was complaining and the leader said he was free to join the other group. HUMPH!

He has friends in both groups and I'm not set on which group he should be in, but I felt that his behavior was far less than adequate and probably hurt the feelings of the boy in the group he left (there was only one other boy, the rest were girls).

As much as I want him to understand how that other boy felt I don't think I'm getting through to him. He's agreed that next time he'll stay with the first group, so I don't think this is a direct disobedience of any sort. He's just not being compassionate and I don't know how to guide him to that point.

5 comments:

Kimmie said...

I think you handled it well...we can only pray, show, then guide and direct and wait for the Lord to move in their hearts.

Be encouraged, your love will shine in his life.

xoxox
Kimmie
mama to 6
one homemade and 5 adopted

mylittleducks5 said...

Those are tough ones. I am always cautious that I don't use shame to get them to do what I want. BUT I also want to encourage them too. I am torn at times when explaining "the deal" and how it should be done. I think you did great. But I hear you on the tough ones. This Mom job has so many aspects to it;)
:>Michelle

Kimmie said...

...a little blog award and some blog boosting for you over at my place.

Kimmie
mama to 6
one homemade and 5 adopted

EEEEMommy said...

We've been dealing with this issue (with one daughter in particular) as it came up in our study of James 2 which talks about favoritism. Just working through that passage together and learning that God calls it sin brought a lot of conviction and encouragement to be impartial, or at least to make sure that we're not hurting people's feelings.

Anonymous said...

Did you ask the other boy how he felt? I wouldn't want to correct my sons actions if the other child was in no way slighted. (If feelings weren't hurt and nothing was otherwise wrong by the actions)The other child may get along with girls better. Sometimes the best lessons are learning to ask questions and respecting others feelings in that way.