Monday, January 5, 2009

Meeting people

We've been here almost two months now and I'm feeling lonely. I'm not usually a stay at home kind of person. I like to go out and meet people for lunch, at the park...anything really to get some social time. But here I don't know anyone. Not one single person. So my question is...

How do you meet new people?

Do you strike up conversations at the store? Do you meet people through church, home school groups, sports teams??

I am pretty certain that eventually we'll start meeting others and have people over for dinner and such but I'm anxious. Have any of you moved a lot and have any tips for me?

11 comments:

chickadee@afamiliarpath said...

oh i'm sorry. that's so hard. even though i've lived here all my life, when we came back from college there was a transitional time where we had to make new friends because our high school friends were gone or different. then again transition when i had kids.

i think church and homeschool groups are excellent ways of finding friends. you need a group of people to depend on. finding a good, loving church should be first on your list.

Emily said...

I think you need to be the FIRST person to introduce herself. I think that makes a big difference. Suggesting things to do or places to meet. It's really up to you, as most people are busy in their own lives and have their own built in friends.

The only way to do it, is to do it yourself. Trust me, I've been there. :) (oh, and the grocery store wouldn't be my first choice.)

Beth Tunnell said...

Church is the best way to meet people. But I also like story times I know it's hard bringing all your kids, but who knows? Maybe there is another big family close by. Or a small family with similar values.

Robyn said...

I'm sorry it's lonely for you right now! (If it helps, we miss you guys terribly!) Have you found a MOPS group yet? I'm sure you will meet some great moms there and at the homeschool group once it starts up again. What about any of the moms from the cookie exchange? Or the church you've been going to? Maybe you could invite some of the people from the cookie exchange or church over for tea or a scrape booking time? I will be praying for God to bring people into your and Ians life that will get you a group of friends there. Hang in there, it will get better!

Monica said...

That is so hard- especially for a busy mom who doesn't have extra time to find connections. Going to retreats/seminars (though awkward to go not knowing anyone else) has been the best place for me to connect. I don't know if it's the extended time there or what, but that is the place I often pick up friends. For instance, I had been in our homeschool group for 2 1/2 years and really related to everyone on the surface only. Last winter I went on a weekend retreat and now some of those ladies have become my dear friends. I wish I would have done it sooner.

I'll pray for you. Bible studies are another way I've found useful. I love BSF. It really cuts past all the small talk and gets to the root of things. Maybe someday I'll have time for small talk around coffee:) Just not now.

I know, how about you move here and then I'll be your friend:)

Monica said...

That is so hard- especially for a busy mom who doesn't have extra time to find connections. Going to retreats/seminars (though awkward to go not knowing anyone else) has been the best place for me to connect. I don't know if it's the extended time there or what, but that is the place I often pick up friends. For instance, I had been in our homeschool group for 2 1/2 years and really related to everyone on the surface only. Last winter I went on a weekend retreat and now some of those ladies have become my dear friends. I wish I would have done it sooner.

I'll pray for you. Bible studies are another way I've found useful. I love BSF. It really cuts past all the small talk and gets to the root of things. Maybe someday I'll have time for small talk around coffee:) Just not now.

I know, how about you move here and then I'll be your friend:)

Dawn said...

We moved around several times early in our marriage. I found that joining groups; homeschool, scrapbooking(LOL like I have time for that anymore) and church have worked out. Also, sometimes I have found friends at the park. But that is very hit or miss. I remember those lonely days. I hope you find some friends soon.
Blessings,
Dawn

ericksons said...

I have found that being a member of my church has also blessed me with friends. Because each of the three times we've moved we've been able to attend the new branch of our church and meet new people. Heavenly Father knows how important friends are to us, it won't be long until you've met some great people there. Laura, you're so friendly and sincere. I enjoyed our chats in the yard as our children played together. I hope that you are blessed to share your sweet spirit with others there in your new place.

EEEEMommy said...

Church and homeschool groups. Are you on the Yahoo! Group loop for your area? (There is one...google it "city, state, homeschool group".) That's where I would begin. Introduce yourself to the group via e-mail and then go on a field trip or to a park day a mom's meeting. When we moved to VA, I got connected with homeschoolers before we finally settled at a church. I was so thankful for those women in the interim. The monthly mom's meetings were like a mini-church for me. I still keep in touch with friends I made in that group.
I'll be praying for you!

..... said...

Been there!
Lean on Him.
I would look for other families with similar values through homeschooling, Bible Study, or Church groups.
Will keep you in our prayers. You have a great family my kids loved getting to know you guys.
- Dusti

Gayle @ thewestiecrew said...

Oh sweet friend. :(

I am so sorry that you are feeling lonely (and I'm truly sorry that I am just now seeing this, since I'm cutting back on my computer time).

Loneliness is such a crappy feeling. You know we've moved to different states 3 times and it is hard.

I think church is a HUGE way to meet people. But the most important thing is to get plugged in. Serve in the upcoming kids programs and get involved in the womens ministry.

When I moved here, I prayed specifically for just ONE special friend...and he answered. I still have her today and I love her like crazy. Plus, He supplied a zillion more.

Praying, girl. And if you ever get to where you just want to chat, please feel free to call me. Just shoot me an email or whatever and I'll give you my number.